By: Chelsea Richardson
Remember these you’ll thank me later. Let’s start off by saying sex is like a box of chocolates, it may take a few bites to find which one you like and having sex is different for everyone. There are always a few questions that come up whether it’s your first time or you’re a seasoned veteran, and knowledge is power. Here’s just a few tips for you.
- Sex is a two-way street, there should be time and effort put into both sides of the party. A woman’s orgasm is just as important as a mans. It’s okay to ask for what you want or ask them what they want.
- Your first time you probably won’t orgasm and that shouldn’t be the goal. A recent study in the Journal of Sexual Medicine found that women only orgasm 62.9 percent of the time with a familiar partner, while men orgasm 85.1 per cent of the time. It’s even harder to achieve climax if you’re stressing out about it. You probably won’t have a mind-blowing orgasm until you’re more comfortable and experienced.
- The more sex you have, the more you want it. For most people the recent memories of sex make you want to reenact the fun.
- You will go through climaxing too soon or too late. Too soon can result in leaving your partner unsatisfied and too late can leave them feeling exhausted. To avoid this spend more time on foreplay.
- For the love of god, if you’re going to climax, warn a person. Sometimes it can lead to a sticky situation. Just tell your partner beforehand, they deserve to know. Trust me on this one.
- Don’t be afraid to talk about what you want out of sex. It could be a one night stand or a night for making love. Everyone is looking for something different, it’s good to ask before your clothes come off.
- After sex, don’t forget to just take in the moment. Don’t reach for your phone and bask in the glow of your screen. Take in the afterglow of lovemaking. Have a chat. Research shows that people who engaged in pillow talk post-orgasm viewed the talk as more open and intimate.
Sex can be beautiful, scary or stressful and all around just weird but we all have our own ways of doing it. It’s a learning process and you’re not going to get it right the first time or even the next few times you do it, but just keep on givin’ er and you’ll find the sweet spot eventually.
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