It’s all about setting a tone

by | Nov 5, 2015 | Arts & Life, Uncategorized

There are very few topics that carry more weight than sex. Just that word … sex. It just sounds naughty. It’s almost as if you have to say it while slightly bending your leg and giving lusty eyes. It can be the end-all, be-all for some people but sometimes it’s that taboo subject that makes people get awkward. Looking at you, Kevin.

But my point is this … sex can be whatever you want it to be. Everybody will differ on this topic simply because people are not all the same. That was almost too simple a point but let me win you back here. We have to embrace differences and alienating people isn’t my jam. So how do I bring everyone together under one umbrella? It’s hard because people come in all shapes and sizes, genders, orientations – everyone is unique in their own way. Basically, I’m screwed and can only give my perspective on things. Fair enough? If I haven’t lost you thus far, come on a journey with me. I’ll meet you in the next paragraph.

Now then, let’s get down to brass tacks. You might be wondering, “Craig, how qualified are you to talk about sex?” Well, I’m not the expert here by any means and I can only give you advice on topics I actually have experience in. Being honest, I’m a relationship guy. If you ask, “give me tips on hooking up this weekend, ow, ow!” I’m going to say, “I don’t know … brush your teeth?” It’s just not my forte. But, do you want to know about romance in the bedroom? Well now, let me get loose here and tell you that I still have no idea. However, anyone can learn. And that above anything is the point of this article.

Regardless of what your thoughts are on sex it’s good to understand the importance of it. For me, I can only give perspective. My girlfriend and I have been dating for quite some time now and romance is something that’s important to us. She’s taught me an unbelievable amount about setting the right mood and I believe that’s a factor that has been glazed over somewhat. Young people might not care about the ‘right mood’ and it can actually make a world of difference.

One time my lady simply lit candles. I was taking a nap at the time and awoke to what I thought was her sacrificing me. I was like, “Oh great … I’m evil.” But in actuality, the atmosphere was very nicely set. Taking those few extra moments can lead to a better experience altogether. This is just one small example about setting a tone for sex.

Some of you are probably thinking, “Thanks Craig. I learned absolutely nothing from that.” You might be amazed at how many people could, though. It’s not so much about lighting some candles and then you’re Andrea Bocelli. It’s the effort that you put in to make the experience better that’s noticed. The connection is what matters and that can lead people to really enjoying themselves in the bedroom. And it’s not so much a dating thing as it is an individual thing. Someone may not feel the same way as you and that’s just fine but when you connect with someone in the same way, it can make it a lot more meaningful.

Again, this is only an opinion. I feel sex is something that should be enjoyed and not rushed. Taking the time to learn and understand your partner really can redefine how you look at sex. Or you may think what I’m saying is dumb and that’s perfectly fine. Everyone can think differently, I’m merely putting something out there to consider. At the end of the day it’s your choice and that’s just the beauty of it in the end.

Also, make sure your girlfriend isn’t allergic to scented oils. I don’t know where that came from but it’s probably the most important sentence in this article.


Gade Rodgers

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